Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Anecdotes from my encounter with Life. - A guest post.

After three years of relentlessly torturing my readers, I decided to give you guys a break and requested my sister, Anjana Jaison for a guest post. She is basically an Electronics and Instrumentation Engineer, residing at Chennai, India. She is one person who will laugh at all your jokes - even the PJs. This hysterical laughter is her trademark, and she is solely responsible to have encouraged many people who started their efforts to be funny with poor jokes, and are now human versions of sheer boredom. Ironically, she has a good sense of humor herself :-| 

She also has a good vocabulary, a good command over the language but will not admit to any of it. She is also very good at Maths and English - the basics are right in place. She cannot make a drawing or a simple sketch, no not even a straight line. She has directly inherited the culinary skills from my Mom, and some of the most unforgettable treats for my taste buds were prepared and served by her. 

So here goes her first guest post on my blog, after months of requests, threats and torture. 

                                                                    That's us! 
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So I finally give in to the sibling’s torture and decide to write a guest post for her blog. No, I have not written before apart from the 140 character limit tweets. So please bear with me!
Here are some of the biggest lessons from my life…

1.       It never rains, but pours.
Have you had a bad hair day? I’ve had lots of it. Some days I feel I might even have a no-hair day. These are days when you seem to have woken up on the wrong side of the bed and others when everyone around you seems to have woken up on the wrong side of their beds. The ones when the other queue seems to move faster and as soon as you move to that one, the counter closes for an hour long lunch break. Everything seems to go downhill from there… You might even wonder why all the bad stuff seem to come together. But that’s the law of nature. When it decides to screw you, it does a total good job of it. Murphy, the world’s greatest philosopher said: “If anything can go wrong, it will…and at the worst possible time”.

2.      Necessity is the mother of invention.
No truer words have ever been said. You think you can’t jump over a wall? Maybe. But if you are chased by a dog, it just comes to you!
I used to be a very quiet person. Then one particularly difficult day, I realised that no one will talk for me, and if I have to save myself, I have to open my mouth and talk for myself. Although the disappointment at suddenly being alone was great, it taught me an important lesson. It all seems hard till you really need to do it and you have no other go. The worst of times actually makes you strong. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

3.      Food is the biggest healer. Ever.
Do you console yourself by thinking that time heals all wounds? I don’t. Cos I know that time doesn’t heal all wounds. For me, food does it. I overeat when I am sad. I overeat when I am happy too, but, that’s another story! So, I have been going through a rough phase for the past one year. Yeah, you guessed it right. I ate my way through it. And now I am 10 kg heavier but I don’t worry about my troubles anymore. Cos now, I don’t fit into any of my clothes and have to worry about what to wear the next day!

4.      Move on.
I am notorious for dwelling in the past. I just can’t let it go. Regrets are my favourite past-time. I think about what should have been, could have been, shouldn’t have been and what ought to have been and anything else from what is to be done right now.
Living in the past, robs today’s happiness. By worrying, you are letting the past cripple your progress, when you actually just need to move on and do what is to be done next.
Moral of the story? No one cares if you are miserable. So you might as well be happy!!! Simble! :P

5.      “By the time a man realizes that his father was right, he has a son who thinks he's wrong.”
I am sure you don’t like to admit this. I don’t too. But then, this is one of the things you get to learn the hard way. Yesterday, I was screaming at my 7 yo during the morning rush (that’s when she eats my head for breakfast), and realized with horror that the words that were coming out of my mouth, were my mom’s! Verbatim. I bet at least some of you have experienced this. After the initial horror has passed, you realize that your mom/dad was right. And then on, you are desperately waiting for the kid to grown up and have kids, and realise that you were right!


6.      One man’s food is another man’s poison
I am sure all of us have experienced this in our lives, in various degrees.
An example: Papa: “Sardines? They stink up the whole place!”
Me: *GASP* *hurt* “How can you say that? They smell/taste heavenly.”
You get an idea!
Apart from the very literal translation, there are other examples too:
Friends: “You like Azharuddin?? :O What are you? Blind?”
Me: “What do you mean by like? I LOVE him!!”
Get the idea?!
Apart from the jokes, yes, I adored the man. I even wanted to marry him! Stupid desires of teenage! An uncle consoled me thus when he got married to his second wife, “Don’t worry mole… He is a Muslim. He can marry thrice. You still have hope.” That stopped the tears for a very long time! :D

7.      Never judge a book by its cover.
My first impression of people always changes and most often for the better. But unfortunately, by the time you realize that most people are like white-washed graves, it is always too late.
I have also learnt to have my own opinion of people/things, no matter what my friends thought of him/her.
And about judging people, I am careful now. The Universe has made sure that I go begging for help to every person I had underestimated/biased against, for no particular reason.

Corollary: A mule dressed in a tuxedo is still a mule! :P

8.     Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups!

I assume a lot. A LOT. Almost 80% of the things that happen in my world, happens in my mind! If someone doesn’t answer my call, I assume that they are mad at me. In my mind, I make up possible reasons for them to be mad at me. Then I go ahead and have a conversation with them in my mind which consists of mostly heated arguments. By the time, this person wakes up from sleep, sees my call and calls back, I am mad at them for being mad at me and for calling me names in my imagined conversation!!! Of course, they have no idea why I am cranky!
The typical story of “Borrowing a jack”!!! Those of you who have not read the story can read it here: http://www.skywriting.net/inspirational/stories/wanna_borrow_a_jack.html

If assumption is the mother, comparison must be the father. Comparison is the root cause of all agony. I have looked at my problems closely. I had to. When my assumptions were getting out of hand!
I realised that every mental agony is, in one way or the other, caused by a comparison I made. This must be the best realization that I had in my entire life. This however, did not stop me from making comparisons from time to time. Nothing good comes of it though. After all, life is all about accepting yourself the way you are, and being happy with it.

9.      Laughter is the best medicine.
Someone in office said that I have the weirdest laughter she has ever heard. Once upon a time, I would have been offended by that. But now, I have seen enough in life to take it as a compliment. Because, if you take the time to look around at the kind of problems people face, you will realize that being able to laugh itself is a blessing. Yeah, I do have a weird n loud laugh. But it never fails to make me feel better. It is not a laugh if you don’t do it heartily.

10.  The best trait that can ever be inherited is the habit of reading.
Enough said!!! Keh diya na, bas keh diya! :P





44 comments:

  1. haha.. agree with all these life lessons.. right down to being an old Azhar fan from back in the 'old days' :)

    As a fellow past-dweller trying to get out of the habit, I too agree that its better to smile and look forward rather than give anyone the satisfaction of seeing me miserable.. as for the food bit, well, if u see me, you know, that I've been indulging in food therapy :)

    Good post.. now sister's got some competition from within the house itself :D

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    1. Haha yes...Ive been convincing her to start a blog... anyway thanks for your good words, Doc!

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    3. Oh my God ! Speechless! My sister is so excited that she is hopping around in joy! Seriously the first time I ever got rewarded for my writing was on that yahoo dove contest and you were the one who broke the news to me..! And now this! You've got something to do with my rewards , doc ! Thanks so much !

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  2. Kudos to my dearest friend Anjana!!! A beautiful and well written post!!! I have been thro' many of the things said above... but then this is life... all we can do is go on in God's grace... :)
    Anjana... may I take this moment to say thanks for being my good friend and I am ever grateful to my Lord for letting our paths cross... and u are blessed with a gr8 sister, too... Though we may not be in touch... u hold a good place in my heart & thoughts... God bless you

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    1. That's an absolutely lovely comment, Jeny. Thanks a ton! I owe you an email. Coming soon! Thanks once again! :)

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  3. Loved your post, chechi !! I would have held you responsible if I had lost my job after my hysterical peals of laughter reading that Azharuddin part :)
    Why restrict your imagination to the 140 character limit tweets ? C'mon -Start a blog. I would so so so love to read it. Hugs, Anjana.

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  4. Anjana,

    I really wish you write more often. Very practical post as most of us also have gone through such situations. Do let me know your blog url, if you have not yet started please do so.

    Take care

    Anita,

    Thanks for introducing her. Take care

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    1. Thank you! I am also trying to convince her !

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  5. Entertaining and thought provoking! She should write more..

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  6. Nice to be here,
    Yet another blogger is born here,
    lovely presentation of life experiences
    keep writing, as someone said why don't you start a blog of your own
    and extend your limit of 140 to 1000 or so :-)
    finally laughter is the best medicine and laugh laugh and laugh
    Sorry to say a word about the point no. 8 a bit or a nauseating experience, pl. find a better word :-)
    best regards
    keep inform
    keep in touch
    philip ariel
    PS: Please remove the word verification, it really irritate your readers especially the one who wants to post a comment, it really irritate.
    Best
    P

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    1. This was soo candid and so true... I can agree with a lot of stuff here..#8 bang on the head...:)

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    2. philip ariel : We havent used any derogatory words. Also, this is a guest post, I will probably not edit what my sister has given me. I do not think she wrote anything bad as per the context. Thanks for your comment.


      Sunitha: Yes.! Most people can relate to what she wrote ! and the point 8!

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  7. The blog and the guest post were good.
    Yes, assumptions are bad. Really bad.
    The greatest part of the post is "LIFE IS ALL ABOUT ACCEPTING YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE AND BEING HAPPY WITH IT"
    Good writing indeed, girls from holy Angels' Convent, ISC, Trivandrum !!! :) :)

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  8. Anita, I have no clue where my comment has gone. I absolutely loved this post. Honestly both of you have an amazing sense of humor. I actually felt I was reading you!! I think she should start a blog of her own!

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  9. Thanks a ton dear! I think so too. And btw our Papa's comment was also delivered to my inbox and dint come over here :-( Bugs, I say!

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  10. An uncle consoled me thus when he got married to his second wife, “Don’t worry mole… He is a Muslim. He can marry thrice. You still have hope.” That stopped the tears for a very long time! :D - kidu :) :)

    nice write up :) chechi

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    1. Honoured to get that comment from you, a seasoned blogger. Thanks a ton! :)

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  11. Left a reply for you on Shobha;s Blog.

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  12. thats a whole lot of things... neatly n humorously put down...

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  13. Agree on all the points, but more so on 9 & 10 :-)

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  14. Thanks for all your comments!!! :D Super thrilled!

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  15. The universe has ensured that I too ask for help from people I have underestimated, ignored. I hate my own destiny :D

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    1. Always happens...Doesn't it? :) So now that we know it, we should be a little more careful when judging people, isn't it? :) Thanks for the comment!

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  16. Truth told in humorous way. That was a good post :)

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  17. Hi Anjana... Never knew u had such a great writing talent, Actually any talent... LOL... ;-)

    Ok, let me be a lil' serious here. Gr8 blog...!!! Enjoyed it thoroughly. Surely every1 of us would have gone thru at least any one of the 10 lessons listed by you.

    But one doubt Anju, "I used to be a very quiet person" - Who r u kidding? Yourself or is it a shocking truth I have to get past... & Seriously, Azharuddin?!?!?! ROFLMAO...!!! But finally you got some1 far more handsome than Azhar. So you are lucky there...!!!

    Keep writing & you have surely inspired me to write a blog...!!!

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    1. LOL!!! That was an awesome comment, Zaheer! :D I am thrilled!
      Buhahahaha!!! So many more shocking things yet to know about me! :D
      And about the someone 'more handsome' than Azhar...well, no comments! :P
      Also, please start writing! You have a jolly family with so many hilarious moments. It would be a great blog to read!
      Once again, thanks for your feedback! :)

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    2. More shocking things... That's pretty scary... & I am damn serious about the "more handsome comment".
      & planning to write soon, Thanks...!!!

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  18. Wonderful lessons about life :) So, it runs in the family? Great post Anjana, and Anita pls continue torturing your sis (just kidding guys) :D

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  19. Anjuuu,
    could relate to your post very well and it's an inspiration to me.Never knew you had this hidden talent of writing.. keep writing.

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  20. Lovely writeup.. loved all your points and agree with most of them :):)

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    1. He he yes I also think its very relevant and applies to a majority of us ! Thank u so much !

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  21. Loved the post Anita....was nodding & grinning my way thru the post.
    And that gem abt food being the biggest healer...that was enoff for me to decide that I ever met ur sistaah in asli zindagi[real life]I'm going to love her;-D

    p.s: how come she knows more hindi than u;-o???

    p.s: And ask her if she watches a particular soap which comes at 8pm on SP, I dunno where I got the idea but I feel she does.

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    1. Please name the 'particular soap' I will ask her ...Lol!
      Yes I also think you will love her..you guys look like the same type :D
      Thanks a ton Nancy..even your comments are so cool to read!

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    2. Its called IPKKND....it's short form for the full form;-P.
      If she watches it she'll knw.
      Anyways she's a natural....blogger I mean. Tell her to jump in soon or she's going to regret it...tht she didn't start sooner;-D

      Thanks for the compliment....I feel sooo coool now[how I wish I had an emoticon with dark sunglasses to place here];-D

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    3. Oh sure I will ask her :D Already told her to start blogging...but dint insist too much..I am sure she is going to steal the limelight if she does,..and thus put me in total darkness :D lol just joking but I will tell her :-)

      Honestly. How hard is it for these blogger guys 2 enable smileys in comment section ! I miss that one with dark glasses in whatsapp on my mobile because half of the time I am praising myself that I badly need this emoticon everywhere!

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